By Lynn Merrill
We females, go after or seek out, have experiences, create attachments which then lead to commitments forming great bonds with each other, our family, our friends and much more. Why is it so hard to find a strong man who will commit on a deep level with his whole heart?
Let's look a little deeper. A broken chain can never create a strong link.
Sisters, we must first find the weak link that will strengthen the chain, for a powerful deep- rooted commitment. For men, they bond first. This is what we need to understand. They do not go about this bonding experience the same way. The process is the same, but the order is different. Take some of these for example: sport teams, friends, mother or fathers, jobs, belief systems, money, cars, dogs and so on. They become loyal to these which create many experiences that build attachments with strong feelings.
Take a look at what is known as the "man cave" (if you can get in, ha ha ha ha!) What you will find is his deep feelings that has been displayed all over his man cave, right from his heart. This only happens after he has built the bond, carefully analyzed, and has gone through all of the process. Then, and only then, is it accounted worthy, for it to be on display.
Now let's say you buy a gift for a man, and there is no bond in that gift. That gift will produce the feeling of happiness, but with no deep root. If you continue to do this, there will be no deep commitment, the link in the chain will be tender, remaining weak.
So what can we gals do?
1. Buy him a gift, but not on a holiday (consider the bond in it)
2. Build up your relationship where you see there might be a lack of trust.
A lack of trust is a sign of weak loyalty towards you. You do need that spot in his "man cave" (his heart). You can start with buying a gift that shows loyalty to him. (We really underestimate this one)
3. Start looking into his "man cave". See where his heart is at, and buy a gift that he may consider placing in his man cave.
4. Build on doing activities where his heart is at, so deep experiences will take place.
Then buy a gift that symbolizes that good time! But give the gift to him at later date, perhaps a month or two later.
Men like gifts as much as we do! They are just different to them in their connection and process placement patterns.
4.1. A gift can have a deep powerful impact on men.
5. Talk with him about his beliefs, but don't just talk, if possible, get involved where you can.
I would go on and say some more, but it's time for me to close the door. Happy travels, I'll see you soon! Remember! Men bond first, the commitment is last. Woman, we commit at the start, then bond in the end.
If you need some good gift ideas, this website is sure to get your brain tingling; http://www.mensgiftshoppe.com